Are you one of them who want everyone around you to accept you? Are you always seeking acceptance from your new-found friends and relations? If you are, and you sometimes wonder what you lack that they haven’t yet give in, please read on!
Let me start by asking you, Why do you seek acceptance by others? Because you want them to like you and interact more with you? Fair enough! So how do you go about getting them to accept you? By trying to please them or floor them with extra love showered upon by way of frequently meeting up and gifting them something they may like? Not bad ideas, right! But still not getting quite there?
And when they finally seem to accept you, have you found those relations last for long? Do you find them worthy as much, even much later into that relation? If you have answered No here, this article is for you!
The only one you need to seek acceptance from is yourself! Yes, Accept yourself, the way you are! Ok there needs to be scope for improvement always, and I totally agree! But that doesn’t mean that you should never accept yourself the way you are! Self-acceptance is understanding who you are, your strengths and weaknesses, and coming to terms with it first. It is important to understand your own strengths to hone them and your own weaknesses to overcome them. Once you master yourself, you will no more seek acceptance from others even though you will find that a lot more people tend to like you!
Strengthen the Strengths & Weaken the Weaknesses
It is important to understand that every person has some unique qualities – good or bad can differ depending upon the perspectives and situations. What may be good for you, may be bad for someone else and vice versa. What qualities do you possess uniquely is what you must ponder and focus on to enhance and leverage from it. In that pursuit, if you remain honest to yourself, you will also come across your weaknesses too. Identify them and keep them aside until you have mastered your strengths. You will find that in the process, you have overcome most of your weaknesses too. Yet, there may be some tough ones to crack for which you may have to spend some more time exclusively to weaken to the core. This process will improve your self-confidence by which you will no longer need to seek it from the others.
No Need to Change
Once you have accepted yourself, you will no longer feel the need to change yourself to be liked by someone else. Self-acceptance increases self-confidence and self-awareness. Once you are aware and confident of what you are and what you can, you will no longer feel the need to change yourself for the sake of being accepted by others. You will no longer seek others’ acceptance and hence, there’s no need to pursue any change.
The Fear Factor
Self-acceptance helps overcome many fears, especially the fear of losing relationships. The more you are aware of yourself, the more you understand your relationships too. Good relationships will not need you to please them or make you seek their acceptance. True relations and friends will accept you just as you are. In fact, they may be happier to see you become more confident and not wanting their acceptance. You will no longer fear of losing people or situations because you now understand that material failure does not make any difference in real relationships.
We tend to become more positive and value the right people when we start showing our gratitude to those who influence us positively. This increases our self-worth and makes us even more positive. We become more thankful for what we have rather than despising what we don’t have!
Positivity, Happiness & Contentment
Nobody is perfect! The moment you accept this, your fears and need to be accepted by others diminish. With self-acceptance comes happiness and contentment. When you understand yourself better and accept your strengths and weaknesses, you are coming to terms with your own self. Once you realize and accept people and situations as they are and only focus on improving them, you start thinking positively. Positive thinking brings in more happiness and contentment.
When you know what you are capable of, others cannot hurt you anymore! You know what you cannot do and have already come to terms with it, so even if others poke you on those issues, it won’t hurt you. There’ll be very little people can do to hurt you emotionally when you accept yourself.
You are what you are!
You have a unique combination of flaws and strengths that makes you, YOU! The moment you accept that and start working on it Positively, you will no longer seek Acceptance from others.