I was working on some writing assignment when I overheard this conversation between my almost 12-year-old son with my husband. This would have come after all those women’s day messages, commercials, discussion and programs, seen on TV.
“Acha (read Dad), Women are above men are they?” – Son
“Hmm” – Dad (a little confused as to what to say!) He agrees to that but, is it really that way?
“You were telling me that day right, Amma comes first before anyone else” – Son
“Yes” – Dad (Again, wondering how to make him understand the point!)
I didn’t want to give my son any wrong perspectives so early itself. So I decided to save my work for later and save the conversation to make things clear!
“What happened dear, why you are asking this now?” – Me
“Amma, Acha has always been telling me that I should love you more than anyone else. Plus, it is like that, right – Women are always above men? They give birth to babies, take care of them, do the cooking, and everything! So they are more important in the family, right?” – Son
(He rightfully omitted the cleaning part as he has rarely seen me do it! 😀 I admit, I am pretty bad at cleaning, certified by my Mom and Husband!!!)
“It is actually like this, son. Men and Women should complement each other. When I am bad at something, your dad does it, right? Same way when he is bad at something, I do it! So what happens is everything gets done! You get to live in a clean house and eat good food! (That settles the score :-D) In a family, it should be like that. Both get equal responsibilities and share the work and do. So no one is big, no one is small. Did you get it?” – Me
“Oh ok, I got it! Both should do things, right?” – Son
I could see both the men happier!