Isn’t it strange that people are always wanting to correct and make their closest ones perfect! Correction is alright but wanting them to be perfect!!! It freaks me out sometimes. I am not perfect, just as even they are not. I don’t expect them to be perfect too, neither do I want them to be so! And that’s exactly why it freaks me out when they just will not accept the fact that I’d rather be myself, than try to get into some other mould!
It’s sad that it all starts from when we are very young. Don’t do this, don’t do that, don’t talk loudly, don’t chew loudly!!! Ok some of them make you a better person, I agree. But don’t we all have a limit?!! Etiquette, manners and perfection are totally different things! Criticism too is ok to an extend. It gets overdone when you insist on the change!
Let me learn from my mistakes when I am ready to bear the brunt!
I am always willing to learn but not open to be corrected forcefully. You can criticise me and that’s perfectly fine. I will analyze it and try to better myself, IF I feel it is required. I am basically the sum total of all my experiences and my character. What I do is totally dependent on my experiences so far. If I react on something, that’s exactly what I intended to do. If I regret it, I will apologise. It’s fine that you notify me. But then, leave the rest to me to decide!
I guess that’s where we all should stop – notice, notify and step back!
Have you ever imagined what happens otherwise? If you are trying to change your friend on some matter, they would ultimately lose their personality and adopt yours. They may not be convinced of the decisions they make and actions they perform. Believe me, it frustrates people all the more!
So if you feel that a friend needs to be corrected, talk to them your point of view on the matter and why it should be corrected. If they come up with a different version on why it shouldn’t be, listen first. Then, leave it upto them to take the corrective action. Do not ever, force a decision on them.
This applies to parents, teachers and everyone else too! When you are on a mission to correct someone, give them suggestions to improve, rather than force a decision on them! It makes them learn a lot. Be by their side, if you are genuinely concerned about them. Be there to support when they fall back on the decision. That’s a huge lesson they learned. Appreciate them for realizing the mistake.
Again, I know that I am not perfect, and this might not be a perfect suggestion too! But it appeals me perfectly and that’s why I share it. You are free to share yours too 😀